Saturday, August 4, 2012

The Day Christians Stopped Being Christlike

I know I said I was going to put this blog on the shelf.

But this week, something happened that made me so irate, so sickened, so embarrassed to be lumped into the same category of the phrase, "evangelical Christian," that I felt this post was necessary.

Usually posts here are designed to dovetail into the blog's theme title: "Christian Safehouse." I decided a long time ago not to bash my fellow Christians and make this a place where people could vent their issues without harassment.

Then I got to thinking about it and realized there were a lot of times in the Bible where Jesus told off religious people.

Notice that I make the distinction, "religious people," versus, "believers." Because if you're not a Pharisee at heart, this blog post isn't for you.

No. This blog post is for everyone who thinks that they showed Christ's love by eating at Chick-fil-A this week.

An interaction with a fellow "Christian" on Twitter last night made me sit up and decide that I won't be silent about this. I let a lot of comments pass by me without commentary, but this is where I draw the line.

I was asked, "What do you teach your child at home?" because of my stance against the Chick-fil-A establishment.

I'll tell you what I teach him. I teach him that Jesus came to die for all men.

All. Men.


I teach him against bigotry. He knows all about the Civil Rights Movement, and he'll learn about what it means to embrace people regardless of their sexual orientation when he's old enough to hear about it.

I teach him that there was a group of people called the Pharisees, and that they were responsible for putting Jesus on a cross. You know why they were responsible?

Because Jesus told them, “He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first.”

Remember that story?

Did any of them throw a stone at that woman after He said that?

No, they went off and plotted His death. They didn't like being called out. It made them mad enough to kill Him.

See, here's the thing. You don't have to agree with the gay community. You don't.

But you do have orders from Someone who died for you that you're supposed to love everyone.

When you're more concerned about going on the war path because a community hurts your feelings, are you turning the other cheek?

When you're more concerned about lining up at a restaurant than you are with feeding the poor or clothing the hungry, are you showing mercy?

When you're more concerned about protecting your rights as Christians than you are about the people who are lost and just need a little compassion and understanding, are you practicing forgiveness?

Those questions are rhetorical.

Don't tell me that your lunch at Chick-fil-A was Christ-sanctioned.

If you fully believe that, you have no business reading this blog. Because this blog is a Christian Safehouse. 

It's reserved for Christians.


  1. Glad to contribute my two cents, Bardgal. Thanks for visiting.

  2. amazing absolutely amazing

  3. That was ... that was exactly what I've been wanting to say for years. Except with less profanity and screaming.

    I think what I'm trying to say is, Congratulations.

  4. Make no mistake Pharisees are live and well as when Jesus came they thought they were righteous and no one could tell them any different. Nothing has changed.

    1. Agreed -- what has been a little frightening since I posted this blog is that I've received comments here that I've chosen not to publish.

      The reason is that I simply don't want a free-for-all on a blog that is intended to generate constructive dialog. This post went beyond what I normally print here, in that I usually discuss issues that bring encouragement. I just couldn't do that in this case and took off the gloves.

      The people who have chosen to defend this are clear that they see nothing wrong with it and that it was an innocent activity.

      Often, the wrong masquerades as goodness. We see this throughout history. It doesn't matter to me if families came to the restaurants and blond-haired-blue-eyed children ate lunch with their grandparents. The same could be said for children of slave owners, children of Klansmen, children of World War 2 German Nazis ...

      Yes. I am making the comparison.

      I'm not offering any apologies for posting this entry. People can get mad and ping at it like hornets, but the truth remains that this was wrong.

      And they need to make amends.

      And no, I won't be posting anonymous comments from people who want to justify it.

  5. When the missionary E. Stanley Jones met with Ghandi he asked, "Mr. Ghandi, though you often quote the words of Jesus Christ, why is it that you appear to so adamantly reject becoming his follower?" Ghandi replied, "oh, I don't reject Christ. I love Jesus Christ! It's just that so many Christians are unlike Christ." Christopher Pierce -

    If you agree with this powerful and courageous Christ centered message; then stand up. I have committed to sending this wonderful Blog to friends and family.

    Drop the stones. Demonstrate grace and compassion.Take action - It's time to be Christ like

  6. Thank you, thank you, thank you ... This actually brought tears to my eyes ...

    When I came out I was unprepared for the harshness of the church and "christians".

    I was raised in an extremely conservative home, protected from society. We didn't even watch TV or go to the movies.
    I saw my first disney movie at 13 years old and was 15 before I had my first sleepover.
    I was the leader of the girls bible study, the leader of the worship, worked VBS every summer.
    I was the fastest in my youth group at "sword drills" (for those who don't know what that is, its a game to see who can look up bible verses fastest).
    I KNOW the bible inside and out.

    But I cried at night and prayed for God to save me ... from myself ...
    For years I tried to be "normal" ... I tried to like guys ... and ignore the "evil" inside me ...

    But then I met Sarah ... at church no less ... I thought God was sending me to hell ...

    The hardest thing I have ever had to do was admit I a lesbian.

    And I ran to the place I thought I would find love and acceptance ... only to be cast out, told not come, stripped of my leadership ... excommunicated...

    When I came out to my southern baptist family I was completely cut off, my parents won't even speak to me. I haven't been home in three years ... I wasn't allowed to see either my sister or brother graduate high school ... I was ignored at my brothers college graduation that I drove 7 hours to be at.

    There is no pain that hurts as deeply as that ... when you mother and father tell you that you are a disgrace ... when a church won't let you volunteer to work in the nursery because of your "sinful" life ... oh yea come and sit it the back and don't say anything ... but how dare you try help out, despite them announcing the serious need for volunteers ...

    I have been with my partner for three years ... When we got together, we had our own little wedding, just me and her and God ... we committed our lives to each other and God and tried to do what the Bible required ... we were BOTH VIRGINS .... we didn't sleep together before we got "married" ...

    So many have caused such deep hypocritical wounds ... the church has flat out said we couldn't be leaders or help with anything ... But they let the girl in the shorty-short dress who came to church hung over and with a different guy then last week pass out welcome flyers???? They don't condemn the couple getting married who have a kid already ... or the man who is on his third wife? But they condemn us ... to girls from christian families who had never had sex with another person, and decided to be in a committed relationship, and do our best to live a life that honors God ...

    IT JUST HURTS .... and its like a slap in the face ... and rarely to I hear someone stand up and say that it's not right ... to kick out and push around and condemn people ... and hear them throw out God and the Bible in my face like I don't already know it cover to cover ... my wife went to school to BE A PASTOR .... I was a pastor's daughter ... REALLY? please don't tell US about the Bible ....

    I CANNOT SAY THANK YOU ENOUGH!!!!! for this post ... since the incident with chick-fil-a ... I have been attacked and I have watched my partner be attacked ... my friends be attacked ... and my "chosen family" be attacked ... And I feel ashamed to even mention what I believe in all of it because those that I "identify" as are condemning me and the ones I love most ...

    Thank you for standing up and speak out on behalf of those whose voice are being smothered by hate from the "christians that love God"!

    1. *Big Hug*

      Thanks for sharing your story. The truth of the matter is that all of us are in need of God's grace.

      "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23), and just like you say, there are people in churches who embrace some while forcing others out.

      You may find this humorous to know that I personally have felt that sense of rejection because of my choice of my vocation. I'm a journalist and have been for 22 years. There were countless churches I attended over the years that held me at arm's length. I think the reasons are complex and myriad.

      The short answer here is that those of us who are without community in the church are still loved by God. I pray that He will envelope you with His embrace today, Elizabeth.

      The next verse in that Romans 3 chapter goes like this:

      "all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus."

      Did you notice the word, "All?"

      Thanks for your heart-felt and open comment.


  7. I could not agree more. Thank you for speaking out.